- Last Updated: Sunday, 02 February 2014 00:19
As Archbishop Desmund Tutu said "I am because you are" applying the philosophy of Ubuntu.
Try telling the modern generation woman what she must wear, or even how you expect her to behave within a society expected norm and see what reply you get.
Society's trouble is I'll do what I want but you...you cannot. Many quite often judge others based upon their own perceived "perfect" views regardless of others.
I'm no different to women in trousers or other male style clothing that they now wear. You will realise this if you look at this site with an open mind and my blogspot. I am still a man just as women in trosuers are still women but human intelligence finds this hard to cope with, about a man that is. Humans are obsessed with power, manipulation, gender bashing, gender competing. I believe in, as to my wife, in gender equality for all, not gender stereotyping as many insist, primarily towards men, but even that is hypocritical for some, especially amongst some women who want full freedom, why not, full opportunities, why not, yet restrict men to set society expectations of which men are critisied for at the same time. Some men still live in time set society expectations and cannot cope with a man or men who like the modern women want full freedom, choice and break society stereotyping. As this site develops over time, this is the next area to concentrate on. I do not spend my life on this subject, I have a life away from this site and its links.
If we are in this modern era to stereotype the male gender to traditional dress code, then that's fine, so long as the female gender is stereotyped to the traditional female dress code. Freedom of choice applies to all not one gender. The dress code for women since the 1980's now encompases all to a point the majority of womens clothing - except skirt/dress and certain footwear is identical to mens! Perhaps I'm wrong, mens has become identical to womens in which case who is the cross dresser?
Either way, who is the cross dresser these days? Man in a skirt or woman in trousers? Human intelligence is so fickle on virtually all subjects with definitions, interpretations, reasons and justifications for what one wants for themselves or expect others to be in human society.
I wear skirts and clothing that society label 'womenswear' yet remain a man, just like women who since the 1980's have embraced without question clothing styles still labelled as traditional menswear. I do this as part of my everyday wardrobe where practical and sensible to do so. This site is not to ask for your permission but to state:
A) Why I do in this modern era that we now live within.
B) Many expect or at times demand this for themselves not just in clothing but many aspects of life.
C) To encourage other men to have the convictions to do the same if that is their preference.
Fabulous Fashionistas, Channel 4 17-09-2013. Documentary about 6 women, with the average age of 80 years old about their dress style. Within minutes this quote was said by one
"I don't give a damn about what people think of me or the way I dress. I dress for myself becasue I like style, design and colour."
Since, 2010, after life experiences and attitudes of many this has been my approach.
Under Feminism it is now said it is normal for a woman to wear trousers and male style clothing so, under Feminism, a man in a skirt cannot be a cross dresser or a Transvestite, but a man in trousers is!
I often here the word misogyny - hatred of women - quoted when a woman or a group of women feel that they are denied what they belief is a right or others query what they do, wear etc. Very rarely do you here misandry - hatred of men - being used in similar situations! What about hegemony - influence or control over another country, a group of people, etc. Now that is a problem within society on many aspects of life.
Consider these three points:
1) How has it become normal and socially acceptable for the woman of today to wear any clothing they like, style, type, dress very similar to male clothing, without question, when not to many decades ago it was not socially acceptable and pre 1920's a prisonable offence for a woman to wear trousers.
2) Why in this modern era, men are critisised for not showing a modern approach to life and continue to be the males of yester year, but when a man embraces freedom of choice, equality his rights etc we get the exclamation that he is not being the "hunter gather, the provider, the protector" etc the traditional male.
3) For anyone who is against men in skirts, or anything else about another, just think what those others may think of you. We are not all perfect or correct in the eyes of another. For those of you who make these thoughts vocal, you are no different to the suppressors of women of yester year from whom change was sought.
Skirt wearing for men in this modern era is just one of these areas especially when the facts and reasons to allow the modern woman to embrace basically the whole male clothing wardrobe without question apply equally to men who choose to wear skirts and items of clothing that they feel comfortable with and gives them confidence as they can be themselves. Apart from it being a right to do so, and freedom of choice of expression, are these not what women state in their pursuit of attaining what they want in life under equality/feminism.
This site is to encourage other men who feel the same to go out and wear a skirt and clothing deemed by society as womens wear to have the courage of your convictions and to be yourself, an individual, a person who has the same rights, emotions, feelings and an individual personality just like everyone else in the modern era.
Women on the whole call for and insist on no gender bias in their pursuit of feminism and equality yet on the whole society seems to think it applies to women only. For equality and a no gender bias to exist then both men and women alike must stop assigning specific gender codes and expectations on each other. Its called tolerance and understanding something society on the whole does not have when an individual or a group expect standards from another or a group but not for themself/selves. Freedom, equality, choice and rights will never exist as long as barriers are dropped for some but not for others. For those who claim the right for freedom and to be able to express themselves they have absolutely no right to deny others the same.
I accept many men cannot carry off wearing a skirt or clothes designated by society as womens wear, besides not wanting to in the first place, but I also believe many women cannot carry off wearing trousers or clothing considered traditional mens wear. If a man in a skirt renders himself in the eyes of society as not being a man because he is not in traditional male clothing then why does that not apply in reverse to a woman in trousers and the 'fashion' many women now wear. At the end of the day it simply strengthens the argument by men like me regardless of how we may look to others of how men should be. It is simply down to ones own taste and individual tastes are continually changing.
I'm all for equality, always have been but equality is just that EQUALITY. I, and I assume others like me, do not expect men in skirts to become mainstream as trousers have since the early Nineties for women, but in a world of equality, rights, freedom of choice etc it applies to all, not just what a majority decide, provided these rights, freedom of choice and equality fall within the remit of the laws of the land which are set by the majority. A man in a skirt does and all the arguments to allow women in trousers applies in equal strength to a man in a skirt.
Women demand equality, recognition and claim the phrase evolving. Well in this modern era that applies to all. The man these days in our modern society has needed to change and for the better I add, to reflect equality, the rights of women to be equal etc. Yet the man is still expected to behave in a traditional way in many aspects of society life. Society is abound with many negative aspects of men, not just dress code. Some men qualify for this negative comment but not the majority. Society does not label all women when a minority of women gave the female gender bad publicity.
The likes of me who push the boundaries in clothing expectations are no different to the first women who wore their partners trousers, or even sex before marriage which was clearly frowned upon by society even as near as the sixties era. History and documentation proves how this was seriously frowned upon by Society dispite what some may say know with the passage of time. It soon became acceptable as more and more of the young generation of the time ignored society's expectations of them. The likes of me, behind the scenes but not to my face, are questioned and called names like cross dresser, 'tranny' or the phrase "I don't understand" and mainly by women, mostly by those who embrace what is now since the early 1990's the norm for women.
I am aware some talk about men in skirts negatively, it's on the internet and public banter when general conversation allows. I therefore expanded this site in late May 2013 and started to put comments on Twitter under @TheSkirtedMan. See my page "Twitter, Social Networks - Men in Skirts" for my participation.
The majority of modern women are trouser based 365/24, I cannot be a cross dresser these days if I choose to wear skirts, as to qualify for this I would wear trousers. Who is the cross dresser? Women wear without question or reason, hat styles, ties, shirt styles, trousers, shoes and sock styles traditionally worn by men a tradition that society still expects of men. A cross dresser applies to both sexes as too transvestite which was coined in the late 1800's to describe both men and women who emulated the other sex in all aspects, when in that era society had both men and women in specific roles for each and were defined very clearly in both dress, behaviour and what one could do within society. In this modern era, macho rules, and you are only "top dog" if you wear trousers. Clothing does not make you "top dog", it's you, the person.
It is only ignorant and narrow minded persons who deny others freedom of choice but exercise it themselves. They should all look at themselves first - their arguments apply equally to me and men like me, but then their one sided mentality does not let them see their own hypocracy.
I don't have a problem with wearing a skirt. If you do, then you have the problem, not me! I am confident that I know the real me, a person who has confidence with his own ethos, beliefs and sexuality. Yes I am secure in my own mind as to where I stand in that argument. A Hetrosexual male who appreciates quality not quantity and has pride in himself as a person - an individual. Are you if you question others?
This site started in March 2011. It has evolved since then.
Why should I seek permission? What for? Do you? Do women?